Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Baby Shower for Luci

Sunday I traveled home to Harrison for a baby shower in Luci's honor. My wonderful sister-on-law, Betsy, and two of my closest friends for the past 16+ years, Jennifer and Tori, planned and threw a wonderful party. It was so fun to catch up with family and friends that I don't get to see all that often. The table was filled with beautiful flowers, delicious foods, and a picture of Luci right in the center.


How many baby showers have you been to with a picture of the little one right in the middle of the table?


Tori created these delicious cupcakes for us all to enjoy! Aren't they beautiful?!

We received so many wonderful gifts for Luci. I can't wait for her to get home and have the chance to use all her new things and wear all her gorgeous clothes. Thank you to everyone who made this day so special. We couldn't have made it this far without our loving and supportive families and our fabulous friends. Please keep those prayers coming that our wait won't be too much longer.

Luci's mom and grandmothers (my mom, me, Jason's mom)

The hostesses and me (Betsy, me, Tori, Jennifer)

Cute quilt made for Luci by Granny Pearl

Monday, February 16, 2009

7 Months Old Today...



Dearest Luci...

Happy 7 month birthday. Wish you were here with us so we could celebrate. We are hoping and praying for your speedy arrival.

Love,
Your mommy and daddy

Sunday, February 1, 2009

An Inauguration Day Letter to Luci - from her daddy

Due to my recent travel schedule and the ice storm that still has us without electricity, I was just today able to make this post. I have carried the draft in my head since the events described below. -Jason

January 20, 2009

My beloved Luci,

Though you are half a world away and haven't yet met your new daddy, know that I'm thinking of you.

Big things are happening in the country that you are destined for. Today I watched as the United States of America's first African American President, Barack Obama, was sworn into office. I gathered in a small camp cafeteria in rural Alabama with 25 other environmental educators from across the USA and Canada and listened, cheered, and nodded as bits of his speech rang through our collective hearts and minds. It is a great moment anchored in hope for our country, though the election, like all presidential elections, is contentious and not without naysayers.

After the speeches, I boarded a bus and traveled to Birmingham, Alabama for an auspicious trip to the National Civil Rights Museum. How strange it was to exit the bus on a cruelly cold January afternoon in downtown Birmingham in the heart of the area that our nation's civil rights movements gained momentum some 50 years ago. I spent a couple of hours reading time lines and looking at exhibits chronicling the struggle of minorities in America for basic freedoms. I read about horrific treatment of brave people who fighting for hope in a time when they were allowed none. I tried to think of how it must be to be treated with hatred simply because your skin is a different color or because you or your parents were born in some other place. I thought of all this on a day that President Barack Obama was sworn in. It wasn't that long ago that a black man couldn't drink from a regular water fountain or sit on a regular park bench.

The gravity of the day was heavy on my mind, but nothing could prepare me for what happened next. After I finished my tour, I sat a moment visiting with the museum docents and greeters, and then walked out into that cold January air once again, this time in full view of Birmingham's 16th Street Baptist Church, where 4 little girls were killed in a racially motivated bombing in September 1963. I stood on the steps of that building and could only think of you. The cold air made my thoughts crystalline. I prayed for you, my dear. I thanked God that you would be coming to our country in a much different time than when the lives of Addie Mae Collins, Denise McNair, Carole Robertson, and Cynthia Wesley were ruthlessly murdered - collateral damage in a struggle for the advancement of basic humanity for those with skin that wasn't white. I prayed that you would never be subject to discomfort because you don't look like your mommy and daddy. I prayed that you be faced with nothing but open sidewalks and pathways to success, and I know that you will. I cried to think that had the freedom fighters and protesters (black, white, and otherwise) hadn't had the courage to stand up for what was right those many years ago, I wouldn't be blessed with the opportunity to build a family that included you. You are the gemstone in what is becoming an interacial family, and what a gem you surely are.

I stood there in the shadow of that church thinking of all of this, and listening to the sound of 4 small children playing in a playground across the street. It was truly a poetic setting. I thought of you as 3 of those beautiful kids pulled their baby sister in a wagon down the sidewalk in front of me yelling, "Yes we can!" - the mantra of hope and change that in 3 words sums it all up. I laughed as the little boy was left behind at a street crossing to tie his shoe; his siters changed the chant to "Yes you can!" as he waited for the crossing signal to change.

Some may read this letter and think that I am being overly dramatic. After all, I am a white man and have never suffered any kind of racial prejudice directed at me. Let them think it. They weren't there on that freezing January day under those social and political circumstances. There don't have a beautiful South Korean daughter weighing heavily on their mind and heart. They may not believe that President Obama has any chance of bringing positive change to our nation or may vehemently doubt he is the man for the job. They may not think that his election is a milestone for our nation. I know that it is, and I felt the electricity in the air in that place as I silently prayed for you and your upcoming arrival. If they never understand, then so be it.

You will be a star my dear. You have already brought your mommy and daddy so much joy and you haven't even set foot in your new home save for the photograph above the fireplace. Your parents are ready, your home is ready, and you will be a star. You already are.

Love,

Your daddy.

Monday, January 26, 2009

Celebrate...I-171

Just a quick update...we received notice in the mail today that our I-600 has been approved by the US CIS!!!! The official form they send us in the mail is called the I-171. On this form they noted "approved petition is being forwarded to Seoul by way of: US Dept. of State, National Visa Center." Its on its way...CELEBRATE!!!!

Now we wait some more. Next thing we should hear is that Luci has EP (Emigration Permission) and we have been told that this part of the process has been taking a while. So we prepare for a long wait, but we hope and pray for a short one!!!

On a side note, Luci's crib was delivered today. As soon as our electricity comes back on we will put it together!

Friday, January 16, 2009

Luci is 6 months old!

Our baby girl is 6 months old today...wish she were with us so we could celebrate...



Many of you are curious so I thought I would use the rest of the post to describe to the best of my knowledge how exactly we bring Luci home. What's next and why can't we just go get her NOW? I ask myself that everyday! Please pray for each step of the process! I apologize now for the length of this post...

Here's what has to happen prior to Luci coming home...

1.Legals. These are all the legal documents for Luci....the documents from Korea saying that she is available for adoption and her birth certificate. We got these this week, much quicker than we or our case worker anticipated! Praise the Lord! Our agency says that this can take 4-12 weeks after assignment. For us, it was exactly ONE week.


2. I-600. We sent this form yesterday and are hoping for approval in a couple of weeks. The approval will be sent to the US Citizenship and Immigration Services (CIS). This begins the visa process. This approval is called the I-171. (Please pray for the "US Citizenship and Immigration" officer that will be handling our approval. Please pray that his/her heart will be softened and that they will work very hard to get our approval...we included Luci's picture with our paperwork just to get the "softening" started)


3. The approval will be sent by CIS to the National Visa Center (NVC). (Please pray for those in the National Visa Center that will be working to help issue the visa. Pray for a quick response from them.)


4. The NVC then sends the approval to the US Embassy in Seoul (the time it takes for the approval date on our I-171 to the time it arrives at the Embassy can be 2-4 weeks). This approval has to be at the Embassy BEFORE the visa can be issued. Luci also has to have a passport before the visa can be issued. Once the passport is issued she will have Passport Permission (PP). (Please pray for the officers in the US Embassy in Seoul. Pray that Luci's visa will be issued quickly by that officer. Also pray for Luci's passport to be touched by hands that will move quickly to get her home.)


5. Travel Clearance (what we are ultimately waiting for): Once our agency knows that Luci's passport is issued and the visa cable is at the Embassy in Seoul, Luci should get "TC" within 2-4 weeks. Once the visa is issued, we receive the TRAVEL CALL and book our tickets for Korea!!!! (Please pray for God's timing in the travel clearance. I know that I have a plan for this but pray that I would be reminded of God's perfect timing. Pray for Jason and I to have patience in this and to prepare our hearts to be the parents that Luci needs.)


Each day we get closer and closer to Luci! We can't wait to meet her face to face and kiss those adorable little cheeks! We know you can't wait either!


Sunday, January 11, 2009

A Baby Girl!

-by the proud new papa

On Tuesday morning Heather got a call from our social worker and immediately called me. We got our referral! Until now, we'd all been assuming we'd end up with a son, but as it turns out, a beautiful baby girl is waiting on us. To make a long story short, we received the referral packet and reviewed our baby's background. We consulted with a family friend who is a pediatrician (trying to remain logical and objective - a pointless attempt). And on Wednesday I called the agency to accept our daughter, of course. Then we got pictures by email. I thought I was awestruck from the referral packet and the word-picture it painted. I was pretty much in love at that point. I was wrong. The pictures came in my email and it was over. I'm a goner. Completely smitten. Funny how a packet of papers and a few photos could make this all so real for me.

And now, this proud daddy would like to introduce to you...

Our baby girl, Luci Kate!



Luci was born - get this - on my birthday, July 16, 2008. How cool is that? The photo is at 5 months old (we think). She's a tiny, gorgeous thing and already melting hearts from half the globe away. (I'm trying to figure out how to bargain for that rockin' baby throne, too) Below are her 1 month, 3 months, and again 5 months old photos (this time with her foster mom).


Funny how I was so cool with the wait for referral. It was no big deal for me (though it was really beginning to wear on Heather). I knew we'd get referral of the right baby for us at the right time. Now I'm completely opposite: I'm anxious and impatient at best. They tell me she'll be here in God's perfect timing. Well, that sounds great and all, but I'm waiting for my baby girl who's separated from me by 15 time zones. I want to bring her home NOW people!

So I guess the difficult wait is upon us. We've sent in the formal acceptance paperwork (saying 'yes' requires a boat-load of signatures!). We're filing all the right US Gov. forms, feeding the bureaucracy with a singular purpose in mind - paving the way for my little girl to come home to us.

In the mean time, this big, furry, burly daddy is having fits. I've cried when I thought of buying a stuffed rabbit I once saw and sending it to her. I get all tight in the chest when I see her little picture staring down at me from the mantle. If you think you're coming to our home to hold her, well, you'll have a tough time prying her from my arms. I'll warn you. It won't happen easily.

And if there are any 6 month old little boys reading this and making plans for knocking on my door in about 16 years to take Luci out. I'm watching you...